A man who was repeatedly denied sex by his wife decided to email her a spreadsheet detailing all the times she’d refused to be intimate with him – and the reasons she gave for turning him down.
According to the spreadsheet, the seemingly frustrated husband had attempted to initiate sex 27 times over a period of seven weeks, with his wife agreeing to sex on three occasions.
The document (below) included supposed quotes from the wife explaining why she wasn’t in the mood for sex, along with additional commentary from the husband in brackets.
One reason the wife allegedly gave for denying her husband sex was “I’m watching the show”, with the husband adding on the spreadsheet “(Friends re-run)”.
Interestingly, it was the wife who revealed her husband’s unusual data capturing of their sex life, posting the spreadsheet on social networking site Reddit and describing her spouse’s email as “immature” and “inflammatory”.
In the post that has since been deleted, the wife explained that her husband had sent the spreadsheet to her work email account, while she was en-route to a 10-day trip.
“Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone,” the wife posted.
“He’s never done this, we always communicate in person or by text. I open it up, and it’s a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won’t miss me for the 10 days I’m gone. Attached is a SPREADSHEET of all the times he has tried to initiate sex since June 1st, with a column for my “excuses”, using verbatim quotes of why I didn’t feel like having sex at that very moment.
“According to his ‘document’, we’ve only had sex 3 times in the last 7 weeks, out of 27 “attempts” on his part.”
The wife admitted that the couple’s intimacy had dwindled and put it down to both of them leading busy lives.
“Our sex life HAS tapered in the last few months, but isn’t that allowed?,” she asked. “We are adults leading busy, stressful lives. I cook for him, I do his laundry, I keep our house clean and tidy. It’s not like our sex life was going to be this way FOREVER, it was a temporary slow-down due to extenuating circumstances.”
She also said that her husband had cut contact with her after sending the email.
Since the post went viral, there has been an outpouring of both anger and sympathy towards the husband.
One commenter posted: “Cutting off all contact and being a huge d*** about it is far more likely to push her into another man’s arms than basically any other alternative he could come up with.”
But another expressed sympathy for the supposedly sex-starved husband, posting: “If I was turned down 89% of the time by my wife in the past while, it would shatter my confidence in myself and my relationship.” And another stated: “Your husband doesn’t give a s*** about the house being clean or tidy. He’d rather get a b***job.”
What do you think? Is it natural/understandable to have periods of limited sex in a relationship? Should the wife make more time to be intimate with her husband? Was the husband right to vent his frustration in this way or was it a cruel bullying tactic? Tell us your views.